Straighten me out

[vraiblonde]

What was the issue? Vria being too harsh? The punishment itself is the issue?

Thank you.

WHAT was the issue? It's not like I smacked the kid or even raised my voice to her.

That's what I don't understand. Larry and the counselor say I was "too harsh" but what was the harsh part? The grounding? The terms "lying" and "stealing"? Not giving her sympathy when she was slobbering on the couch?

What?

I can't stop being harsh if I don't know what I *do* that is so harsh.

 

[cattitude]

I disagree... both of mine were taught and understood personal responsibility while still in single digit age. I'm not saying they didn't have to learn by example, but they learned early on.

Perhaps..but they are still relatively young. I'm not saying all kids screw up but a GOOD MANY of them do.

 

[RoseRed]

...this was over and done with the week it came up.

She goes into a shell when she gets caught messing up, (EXCSUE ME, LYING AND STEALING) a slobbering, crying shell in an effort to get it all to go away. She laid on the coach for some time, an hour or more as we kept going back to her to get her to fess up and tell the damn story straight up.

She has a problem with taking full responsibility. I'll take responsibility for it for not being a good enough parent.

That there is just not right.

 

[morganj614]

Thank you.
WHAT was the issue? It's not like I smacked the kid or even raised my voice to her.
That's what I don't understand. Larry and the counselor say I was "too harsh" but what was the harsh part? The grounding? The terms "lying" and "stealing"? Not giving her sympathy when she was slobbering on the couch?
What?
I can't stop being harsh if I don't know what I *do* that is so harsh.

Why are you just now discussing the 'harshness' of an event that was last year?

 

[vraiblonde]

I'll take responsibility for it for not being a good enough parent.

I don't think you should take responsibility - I think *she* should take responsibility for her actions. If other people are taking responsibility for the things she does, how will she ever learn to do it herself?

 

[Christy]

I don't think you should take responsibility - I think *she* should take responsibility for her actions. If other people are taking responsibility for the things she does, how will she ever learn to do it herself?

Good point.

 

[Larry Gude]

In what way..

That there is just not right.

...do you mean?

 

[nomoney]

...do you mean?

was the coach at least using protection?

 

[mainman]

was the coach at least using protection?

:

 

[vraiblonde]

Why are you just now discussing the 'harshness' of an event that was last year?

Because Larry and I are in counseling to learn to communicate better with each other and avoid misunderstandings. The counselor says I'm harsh and too vehement with my opinions, and this event came up as an example of me being too harsh.

 

[pixiegirl]

That there is just not right.

If you wanna cry I'll give you something to cry about!

 

[vraiblonde]

was the coach at least using protection?

Larry, you said Em was laying on the "coach" instead of the couch. They're making fun of you.

 

[RoseRed]

...do you mean?

Is her coach male or female?

 

[Mousebaby]

If you wanna cry I'll give you something to cry about!

 

[mainman]

I didn't know Spurrier was back in town...

 

[Larry Gude]

Look...

I don't think you should take responsibility - I think *she* should take responsibility for her actions. If other people are taking responsibility for the things she does, how will she ever learn to do it herself?

...I offering up something here. She does have an issue with taking responsibility meaning, to me, she has not been taught enough and held responsible enough for shirking the truth, the whole truth. I do NOT hold yopu repsonsible for that.

I've taken issue with you in SOME of how you go about it; not the fact that you ARE a very good parent. All I've ever said is sometimes you can be a little rough.

 

[RoseRed]

Larry, you said Em was laying on the "coach" instead of the couch. They're making fun of you.

 

[RoseRed]

If you wanna cry I'll give you something to cry about!

 

[nomoney]

...I offering up something here. She does have an issue with taking responsibility meaning, to me, she has not been taught enough and held responsible enough for shirking the truth, the whole truth. I do NOT hold yopu repsonsible for that.

I've taken issue with you in SOME of how you go about it; not the fact that you ARE a very good parent. All I've ever said is sometimes you can be a little rough.

does she beat you? It's okay you can tell us. we wont judge.

 

[Larry Gude]

You AZZ!

Is her coach male or female?

...I gave you a LarrySpeak decoder last time I saw you.