Would you kill you spouse?
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PJumper
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sockgirl77
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No. I don't think anyone would have me anyway. I am so set in my ways.
I'm good with just shacking up for the rest of my life. Seriously.
PJumper
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Okay, so here's the thing. I do things for my husband because I want to and because I love him. Not because I have been "trained". And he does things for me if he thinks about it. I understand everybody has their own special thing going on in a relationship.
However, if he ever talked about me, or to me, in the completely disrespectful and unloving manner that you speak of your wife, I would kick his ass to the curb so quick it would make his head spin. Regardless of how much I loved him.
You are not a great husband to disrespect and degrade your wife. Perhaps she does things for you because she loves you. But after all this time, I think the poor woman has been humilated and browbeaten by you so much that she doesn't realize that she is deserving of respect from her husband. That she should be treated as someone who is loved and cherished, not talked about as if she is a fcking dog.
You, "sir", disgust me.
And how exactly did I disrespect her?
That's not the example I want to set for my teenage daughter. Besides, I like that I can come and go whenever I want, for the most part, and that I don't have to answer to anyone.
I don't mean this in a bad way, at all, but I think there's a cultural difference in 'her' thinking and 'our' thinking...specifically regarding taking care of the house and her husband. She's probably not used to having money back home like she has with you; therefore she feels it's necessary/her job to take care of everything and basically do everything for you and you're happy to allow her to do it. Surely you won't find an American woman, or many anyway, that would cater to your every need as you say she does.
My co-workers Father is married to a woman from the Philippines and it's the same way for him
JeJeTe
Happiness
The problem isn't the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem.
This is probably one of my favorite sayings ever.
Yeah, we're all jealous of you. The wimminz on this forum and in this area are ungrateful and don't know how to be proper wives. Sometimes I wish I was living in the 50's when women did things the right way, knew their roles, and didn't put up a fight. It's much easier when they're submissive
Oh, are you talking about that Stepford wives school? Do you happen to have a link to that? Thanks!
Okay, so here's the thing. I do things for my husband because I want to and because I love him. Not because I have been "trained". And he does things for me if he thinks about it. I understand everybody has their own special thing going on in a relationship.
However, if he ever talked about me, or to me, in the completely disrespectful and unloving manner that you speak of your wife, I would kick his ass to the curb so quick it would make his head spin. Regardless of how much I loved him.
You are not a great husband to disrespect and degrade your wife. Perhaps she does things for you because she loves you. But after all this time, I think the poor woman has been humilated and browbeaten by you so much that she doesn't realize that she is deserving of respect from her husband. That she should be treated as someone who is loved and cherished, not talked about as if she is a fcking dog.
You, "sir", disgust me.
sockgirl77
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That's not the example I want to set for my teenage daughter. Besides, I like that I can come and go whenever I want, for the most part, and that I don't have to answer to anyone.
You and I have different needs though.
PJumper
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I don't mean this in a bad way, at all, but I think there's a cultural difference in 'her' thinking and 'our' thinking...specifically regarding taking care of the house and her husband. She's probably not used to having money back home like she has with you; therefore she feels it's necessary/her job to take care of everything and basically do everything for you and you're happy to allow her to do it. Surely you won't find an American woman, or many anyway, that would cater to your every need as you say she does.
My co-workers Father is married to a woman from the Philippines and it's the same way for him
Thank you! The thing is, I don't tell her or ask to do things for me. She just feels that it's her duties as a wife to do those things. BTW, she is not sheltered in anyway either. A lot of our friends (female) she mingles with are professionals and are actually jealous to be in her place, to be able to come home to a home-cooked meal after work, worked as few or as many hours if they want, husbands not spending a lot of time on the golf course or fishing holes or doing things away from home.
slotpuppy
Ass-hole
I shacked up with the handler for 20 years before we married. Nothing wrong with that.
lucky_bee
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I don't mean this in a bad way, at all, but I think there's a cultural difference in 'her' thinking and 'our' thinking...specifically regarding taking care of the house and her husband. She's probably not used to having money back home like she has with you; therefore she feels it's necessary/her job to take care of everything and basically do everything for you and you're happy to allow her to do it. Surely you won't find an American woman, or many anyway, that would cater to your every need as you say she does.
My co-workers Father is married to a woman from the Philippines and it's the same way for him
As soon as he mentioned he was in the service I KNEW she was either asian or from the Philipines. As a dedicated Navy Brat, this .... situation ... is quite common. And awkward. Way to fulfill the typical dominating Military Man stereotype
Look, all these ladies are always so charming and nice and lovely. I've come across many in my mother's Wives' Club and Navy stuff. But they were raised totally opposite of us opinionated American girls. The women themselves will never bother me bc they don't know any better. They're always super sweet and willing to please. But you, PJ, have some creepy dominating fetish for some submissive little "yes dear" wife and it has obviously gone to your egotistical head. If you EVER find yourself back in the dating world, I will never feel sorry for your dumbass bc the women you'll meet today will put you in your place so hard, you'll never be able to get back up.
PJumper
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As soon as he mentioned he was in the service I KNEW she was either asian or from the Philipines. As a dedicated Navy Brat, this .... situation ... is quite common. And awkward. Way to fulfill the typical dominating Military Man stereotype
Look, all these ladies are always so charming and nice and lovely. I've come across many in my mother's Wives' Club and Navy stuff. But they were raised totally opposite of us opinionated American girls. The women themselves will never bother me bc they don't know any better. They're always super sweet and willing to please. But you, PJ, have some creepy dominating fetish for some submissive little "yes dear" wife and it has obviously gone to your egotistical head. If you EVER find yourself back in the dating world, I will never feel sorry for your dumbass bc the women you'll meet today will put you in your place so hard, you'll never be able to get back up.
Correction. She's not a "Yes Dear" type of wife but does respect me as her husband. That being said, she makes her opinion known without disrespecting myself or others. I've seen wives, some Filipinas, who would talked down to their husbands just because they make more money. That's not gonna happen in my house. If she thinks making more money is the basis on who wears the pants, she needs to find another husband.
lucky_bee
RBF expert
You seem to think that bc you make more money, you can treat your wife any way you'd like and that she's "lucky" you still put up with her. She might respect you (God help her), but you are far from truely respecting this poor woman. That just makes me sad.
PJumper
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I did not say that, please read the post. Where did I say I'm putting up with her? The problem is that the western woman personality is kicking in before you even try to understand the situation.
She is not forced to do anything, she does it because that's the way she was raised. I did said being "patient and understanding" for her shortcomings, but you have to be in my shoes to know what I meant. That being said, she's been a wonderful wife and mother to my kids, that's why I said she's a keeper.
withrespect
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MMDad
Lem Putt
Only if she couldn't bake a cake.
But what if she tries really, really hard?