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julz20684
Guest
Magnum said:It seems very hard to find single women without a kid these days.
True, but we don't normally bring them on dates with us...that's just freaky.
mv_princess
mv = margaritaville
I bet she was. He even came in and said "Sorry I am a little late, my mom had to get ready."Mikeinsmd said:
Mom was mad she had to come back so soon too!!
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Benjismom
Guest
Vince said:It wasn't me, I swear it wasn't. Besides, I'm tall 5'4" and not round at all.
I know it wasn't. I know you and you're better looking than that.
slotted
New Member
http://www.fling.com Probably NSFW.
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Dr. Fill
Guest
Personal Relationship Values
In relationships, just as in every other aspect of life, the spirit and attitude with which you do things is at least as important as your actual actions. Embrace and incorporate these powerful values, and you will start living with more integrity, honesty, compassion and enthusiasm. This, in turn, will breathe new life into your relationship.
Own your own relationship.
You are fully accountable for your relationship. You can never again believe you're a martyr suffering in your relationship because of an unworthy partner. Only when you stop seeing yourself as a victim will you start to see yourself as a fully competent and potent force in your relationship.
Accept the risk of vulnerability.
Do not let fear paralyze your life. Wanting, reaching out and letting yourself hope makes you vulnerable. At least by putting yourself on the line, you have the chance of getting what you want, as opposed to hurting with no chance of getting what you want. Not to venture is to lose yourself.
Accept your partner.
If your partner experiences in you the spirit of acceptance, then it is most likely that he/she will find you approachable. Two partners who are moving toward each other, rather than both trying to seek safety from pain, have a dramatically improved chance of reconciliation.
Focus on friendship.
You have to take a step back from the problems and pain of your intimate interactions, and focus on your partner's positive qualities. Turn back the clock and recall what it was that started the friendship that matured into an intimate relationship.
Promote your partner's self-esteem.
You must bring the spirit of acceptance into affirmative, interactive action. Find the courage and creativity to promote and protect your partner's self-esteem, even when you feel compelled to be critical. By using the value of self-esteem, you provide a much more nurturing atmosphere, one your partner will not want to abandon.
Aim your frustrations in the right direction.
Work at sorting out the causes of your frustration, and resist the impulsive temptation to pick at your partner. Once you start seeing that the negative things you perceive in your partner are often things you see in yourself, you will literally alter the nature of your interactions with your partner.
Be up front and forthright.
Nothing can be more frustrating than what is referred to as an incongruent communication, where an individual says one thing yet indicates something dramatically different with his or her nonverbal conduct. Strive to express your feelings in a mature and responsible way. By being honest about your emotions, you base your relationship upon integrity rather than lies and deception.
Make yourself happy instead of right.
Start evaluating the things you do in your relationship based on whether those thoughts, feelings and actions are working. For example, you don't have to prove over and over that you know what you're talking about more than your partner. Instead, choose a different emotion such as tolerance, understanding or compassion that does not escalate hostility in your relationship. By deciding to be happy rather than right, you will be receptive to your partner's attempts to de-escalate hostility and return to civil interactions.
Allow your relationship to transcend turmoil.
Rough times and arguments happen, and one way or another, they are going to impact the relationship. You must vow to no longer use threats as a lever to manipulate and control your partner. By doing so, you are setting a clear limit on the places a spirited discussion with your partner will not go.
Put motion into your emotion.
You must turn the concept of love into a proactive behavior. Don't be so consumed with negative messages that your expectations are low. You must require yourself and your relationship to truly be better.
My formula for relationship success: The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.
But before you can even get there, you need to make sure you are ready for a successful relationship. Have you honestly and carefully prepared yourself for what is to come? All of the following should be true for you.
I realize that it's not too late.
It is reasonable for me to want a rewarding and fulfilling relationship.
I am entitled to and deserve a high-quality, caring relationship.
I have identified the wrong thinking and bad spirits that have contaminated my previous relationships.
I have embraced the above Personal Relationship Values that will configure me for success.
I have diagnosed and gotten real about the pain and problems in this relationship.
I accept and acknowledge full ownership of my contribution to where this relationship is.
I am committed to tapping into my core of consciousness.
If you can fully endorse each one of these statements with a resounding "True," then you're ready to move forward and make a relationship work.
In relationships, just as in every other aspect of life, the spirit and attitude with which you do things is at least as important as your actual actions. Embrace and incorporate these powerful values, and you will start living with more integrity, honesty, compassion and enthusiasm. This, in turn, will breathe new life into your relationship.
Own your own relationship.
You are fully accountable for your relationship. You can never again believe you're a martyr suffering in your relationship because of an unworthy partner. Only when you stop seeing yourself as a victim will you start to see yourself as a fully competent and potent force in your relationship.
Accept the risk of vulnerability.
Do not let fear paralyze your life. Wanting, reaching out and letting yourself hope makes you vulnerable. At least by putting yourself on the line, you have the chance of getting what you want, as opposed to hurting with no chance of getting what you want. Not to venture is to lose yourself.
Accept your partner.
If your partner experiences in you the spirit of acceptance, then it is most likely that he/she will find you approachable. Two partners who are moving toward each other, rather than both trying to seek safety from pain, have a dramatically improved chance of reconciliation.
Focus on friendship.
You have to take a step back from the problems and pain of your intimate interactions, and focus on your partner's positive qualities. Turn back the clock and recall what it was that started the friendship that matured into an intimate relationship.
Promote your partner's self-esteem.
You must bring the spirit of acceptance into affirmative, interactive action. Find the courage and creativity to promote and protect your partner's self-esteem, even when you feel compelled to be critical. By using the value of self-esteem, you provide a much more nurturing atmosphere, one your partner will not want to abandon.
Aim your frustrations in the right direction.
Work at sorting out the causes of your frustration, and resist the impulsive temptation to pick at your partner. Once you start seeing that the negative things you perceive in your partner are often things you see in yourself, you will literally alter the nature of your interactions with your partner.
Be up front and forthright.
Nothing can be more frustrating than what is referred to as an incongruent communication, where an individual says one thing yet indicates something dramatically different with his or her nonverbal conduct. Strive to express your feelings in a mature and responsible way. By being honest about your emotions, you base your relationship upon integrity rather than lies and deception.
Make yourself happy instead of right.
Start evaluating the things you do in your relationship based on whether those thoughts, feelings and actions are working. For example, you don't have to prove over and over that you know what you're talking about more than your partner. Instead, choose a different emotion such as tolerance, understanding or compassion that does not escalate hostility in your relationship. By deciding to be happy rather than right, you will be receptive to your partner's attempts to de-escalate hostility and return to civil interactions.
Allow your relationship to transcend turmoil.
Rough times and arguments happen, and one way or another, they are going to impact the relationship. You must vow to no longer use threats as a lever to manipulate and control your partner. By doing so, you are setting a clear limit on the places a spirited discussion with your partner will not go.
Put motion into your emotion.
You must turn the concept of love into a proactive behavior. Don't be so consumed with negative messages that your expectations are low. You must require yourself and your relationship to truly be better.
My formula for relationship success: The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.
But before you can even get there, you need to make sure you are ready for a successful relationship. Have you honestly and carefully prepared yourself for what is to come? All of the following should be true for you.
I realize that it's not too late.
It is reasonable for me to want a rewarding and fulfilling relationship.
I am entitled to and deserve a high-quality, caring relationship.
I have identified the wrong thinking and bad spirits that have contaminated my previous relationships.
I have embraced the above Personal Relationship Values that will configure me for success.
I have diagnosed and gotten real about the pain and problems in this relationship.
I accept and acknowledge full ownership of my contribution to where this relationship is.
I am committed to tapping into my core of consciousness.
If you can fully endorse each one of these statements with a resounding "True," then you're ready to move forward and make a relationship work.
, but I don't think you want those posted on your profile though. 
morganj614
New Member
One showed up wth no teeth in his head.
One thought we were a couple after 1 date.
One was every bit of 150 lbs. over what he said.
One wanted to do nothing on the date but go to his house and smoke pot.
One jammed his tongue in my throat for a goodbye kiss.
One talked to me with his head down the whole time and could not look at me. He said he was 5'8" but was MAYBE 5'3".
and the list goes on and on....
One thought we were a couple after 1 date.
One was every bit of 150 lbs. over what he said.
One wanted to do nothing on the date but go to his house and smoke pot.
One jammed his tongue in my throat for a goodbye kiss.
One talked to me with his head down the whole time and could not look at me. He said he was 5'8" but was MAYBE 5'3".
and the list goes on and on....
nachomama
All Up In Your Grill
morganj614 said:One showed up wth no teeth in his head.
One thought we were a couple after 1 date.
One was every bit of 150 lbs. over what he said.
One wanted to do nothing on the date but go to his house and smoke pot.
One jammed his tongue in my throat for a goodbye kiss.
One talked to me with his head down the whole time and could not look at me. He said he was 5'8" but was MAYBE 5'3".
and the list goes on and on....
And this is why you are our Wise Wizard of the Weenie.
morganj614
New Member
nachomama said:
And this is why you are our Wise Wizard of the Weenie.
Oh, the weenies I have met
Nacho already has those pics - I need clean pics. Geesh.