The only gross thing I can remember is when she threw up in her uncle's mouth and when she threw up inside of the back of my shirt.
Mine is going on 14... fun times!
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The only gross thing I can remember is when she threw up in her uncle's mouth and when she threw up inside of the back of my shirt.
Mine is going on 14... fun times!
send them home to their mothers ....
This Parenting thing is tough .....
.... my wife, bless her, is not letting me slack off .....
I am a quiet introvert, when I pick my daughter from school it is 20 min of "blahblah: , but the time I get home
... I have had enough conversation for a week .... and she has more to tell, then my wife wants to talk .... 
And when there's nothing you can do you stop thinking about it. Or at least I do.
That's one of those things I can't do anything about so I stopped thinking about it. My issue with her is the way she behaves and treats me - none of the past bullcrap or anything like that, it's all in the present and ongoing. I explained it to her once, and she chose to twist it and make herself the victim. Nothing I can do, so now I don't think about her anymore.
Hank
my war
Ditto. Yet, the present drama with her has conjured up the past and finally I started putting the pieces together on when and why she demonstrates this behavior. Everything is still fresh as far as making the decision to no longer communicate with her as it will be a year in June. I still care and love her and I don't feel as if I could ever harbor those extreme feelings for her as far as not caring or loving her.
struggler44
A Salute to all on Watch
JeJeTe
Happiness
26, 25, 18, 15, and 7
My dad and stepmom have 6 girls between them.
31, 29, 26, 23, 22, 15.
ArkRescue
Adopt me please !
Sounds like it could be a good Reality TV show: 7 to 1
frequentflier
happy to be living
Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you have to like them.
sockgirl77
Well-Known Member
Funny how a thread turned from kicking a guy to the curb to everyones mommy issues.
Well, we all love your Mommy!
Same same. Once you realize you don't have to put up with a parent's bull####, it dawns on you that you don't have to put up with some guy's bull####, either, and you become Princess Bitch.
It's very liberating to stop seeking approval from others.
MMDad
Lem Putt
That's pretty much where I'm at. I surpressed the crap from my childhood, and every once in a while a scab gets picked and something bubbles up, but now it makes my understand why I am the way I am instead of making me resentful.
There's enough about the way she acts that makes me not want to go too far to repair the relationship, but she's the one who essentially cut me off. She was playing the "woe is me, give me pity" game, and I refused to go along with it. She called me evil and hung up, and has only talked to me once since. I think she bounces between being ashamed of her behavior during periods of lucidity, and her self pitying victim crap.
The weird thing is, she was playing the victim over something that should have made her ecstatic. My dad's family had blamed her for my brother's disability for 46 years, and apparently she also blamed herself. One day he was walking out of a store (he does use crutches) and next thing he knew he was in an ambulance. He had had a seizure. They did a CAT scan for the first time, and found nothing to cause the seizure, but they did find the cause of his disability - hydrocephalus had done the damage when he was an infant.
There was nothing she could have done to have caused or prevented his brain damage. The technology did not exist to detect this in 1963, and he didn't exhibit any of the classic signs. Even if they had detected it the treatment back then was so dangerous that he may have ended up worse off or dead.
You would think that after carrying around guilt for 46 years, then suddenly being relieved of that, someone would feel immense relief. Not her. This ahd been such an integral part of her self pity that she could not let it go. She lashed out at my dad because the Air Force hadn't found it. And when I would not join her in her self pity, anger, and blaming my dad, she cut off contact.
My earliest memories are of her insanity. She is what she is, and it will not change. I have stopped hoping she will suddenly get help and become sane.
Nomo, sorry to hijack this with mommy crap, but at least it's better than the Lance fighting, IS damning us to hell, or Dip#### pretending he has a brain.
MMDad
Lem Putt
And it's just as true for not putting up with a woman's crap. If I can't be drawn into my own mother's crap, what woman has a chance to draw me into hers?
SamSpade
Well-Known Member
So because you have issues with it - it's OUR fault?
To be blunt, it took me that long just to find someone willing to spend their life with me. My kids have cousins in their 30's.
This guy is all of those other wonderful things you said about him? Then the fact he began a family later in life doesn't strike me as a character flaw. Just an inconvenience. For you.
sockgirl77
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ArkRescue
Adopt me please !
I agree that there ARE people who are very good at planning their lives well. I have good friends that were childhood friends that later in life became sweethearts and married. They are in their 30's but just had their 1st child. They did an exceptional job at controlling their life and not just allowing "things to happen" TO THEM. Before they had their first child they were married, had purchased their 1st home, and they were READY for it. I applaud them for their ability to take control their lives to that degree.
I do see many more people are waiting to have children. The problem comes in them breaking up after the children are born into the marriage/relationship. I think that was part of the problem Vrai mentioned - the ex/mother that was "crazy" in the background. I would avoid that type of situation myself.
Thank goodness you found THE ONE, not everyone does. Somehow I do see you two together forever, you two just seem to have IT.
Ahh, but he not only started later in life, it apparently didn't work out after only a very short time. May or may not be a red flag.
It is an oddity to me that a man in that age range with a child THAT young would be looking for a woman in that age to date. The odds are not great he will find a mate to help him raise the child and be a FAMILY unit.
I think some of the late bloomer guys here who are taking issue and a bit of offense with Vrai's take on this. If you got married later and/or had your children late and are married - she's not talking about YOU! You are not in the dating pool. Or at least ya shouldn't be if you're married!
