Should I ‘settle’ now or hold out for Mr. Right?
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Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
That's one way to look at it.
Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
Pete
Repete
Are you only talking about looks? Because I find a good personality a lot more attractive than some one who is dumb as rocks and has no sense of humor what so ever.
I guess I am lucky I have a great sense of humor and a sterling personality eh?
What I am saying is if you don't like mint, you just don't like it. Someone telling you how much THEY think you should like mint is not going to make you like it.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Not at all...
...I can see here now at the funeral lamenting how the love of her life was snatched from her, the cruel fate after such a horrible accident at work that then all of those pillows would somehow get lodged in his throat at the same time...
...I can see here now at the funeral lamenting how the love of her life was snatched from her, the cruel fate after such a horrible accident at work that then all of those pillows would somehow get lodged in his throat at the same time...
No, because there are guys who are just heinous wretches, that aren't even worth consideration and your girlfriends should slap you silly for even talking to them, let alone dating them. And then there are perfectly good guys who aren't model gorgeous, aren't Bill Gates rich, sometimes get drunk and act silly, occasionally are thoughtless, but they're all around good men who deserve a shot.
We're talking about extremes here. I don't think you were unreasonable to wait for Day - he's a good guy. But I have a girlfriend who would rip him to shreds because he's not handsome enough, or rich enough, or whatever. She's married to a really handsome, rich guy who cheats on her now.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
Aaah, wait...hubby swears to me all the time that he doesn't like this or that. He swore he didn't like anything from Starbucks...well, guess what....
Pete
Repete
Aaah, wait...hubby swears to me all the time that he doesn't like this or that. He swore he didn't like anything from Starbucks...well, guess what....
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
A good thought here "Don't look for qualities in a mate that you, yourself do not have."We're talking about extremes here. I don't think you were unreasonable to wait for Day - he's a good guy. But I have a girlfriend who would rip him to shreds because he's not handsome enough, or rich enough, or whatever. She's married to a really handsome, rich guy who cheats on her now.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
There's another...
...question I wanna ask; do you find them ATTRACTIVE or are you ATTRACTED to them?
Attractive; I think Katherine Zeta Jones is attractive; good looking to my eye.
I don't know if I'd be attracted (find her interesting, want to be with her, etc) to her as I've never met or chatted with her. As she is married to Michael Douglas, whom I think of as a Hollywood psycho, I may well not be attracted to her while still finding her 'attractive'.
I'm attracted to Patrick Warburton and Dan Warner (the propane guy). They're.
...question I wanna ask; do you find them ATTRACTIVE or are you ATTRACTED to them?
Attractive; I think Katherine Zeta Jones is attractive; good looking to my eye.
I don't know if I'd be attracted (find her interesting, want to be with her, etc) to her as I've never met or chatted with her. As she is married to Michael Douglas, whom I think of as a Hollywood psycho, I may well not be attracted to her while still finding her 'attractive'.
Cowgirl
Well-Known Member
That's not always a true. My sister is a very serious person. Her hubby is very goofy. He makes her lighten up, she helps keep him on track. They're a very good match. :shrug:
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Well...
...there goes my theory; some of the things I LOVE about Vrail are qualities I don't have; discipline, organized nature, patience, 34 c's...
...there goes my theory; some of the things I LOVE about Vrail are qualities I don't have; discipline, organized nature, patience, 34 c's...
kwillia
n/a
Exellent point, Larry. One does not beget the other.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
That's not what I mean. If I don't make a million dollars, I shouldn't expect my husband to. If I don't drive a Ferrari, I shouldn't expect hubby to. Not actual personality traits of silliness, if that makes any sense.
Battered wives/girlfriends say crap like that all the time - "Why does every guy I ever love turn out to be abusive???"
Well, duh!
Then their girlfriends try to fix them up with a nice guy, and they don't want that because he's not exciting enough for them.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I'm not...
...making the point; I'm asking. I know what I think, just curious what the panel thinks.
...making the point; I'm asking. I know what I think, just curious what the panel thinks.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
They are looking for what they "think" they deserve.
kwillia
n/a
Okay... then now you have my opinion... I believe that one does not beget the other.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
So...
...the world is filled with guy's who make a million bucks and have a garage full of Ferrari's who just can't find the simple farm girl they long for.
I don't think there is a thing in the world with wanting a spouse that makes a ton of coin if that is merely one of the things you KNOW you want and seek.
...the world is filled with guy's who make a million bucks and have a garage full of Ferrari's who just can't find the simple farm girl they long for.
I don't think there is a thing in the world with wanting a spouse that makes a ton of coin if that is merely one of the things you KNOW you want and seek.
Pete
Repete
Battered wives/girlfriends say crap like that all the time - "Why does every guy I ever love turn out to be abusive???"
Well, duh!
Then their girlfriends try to fix them up with a nice guy, and they don't want that because he's not exciting enough for them.
You are talking an extreme. Since when is knowing someone and not feeling the urge to hook up in a relationship the same as looking for abisive relationships?