SMO: Giving men Ultimatums...
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You are correct.Dixie said:
Midnightrider
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just send $20 cash per month to me and i'll take care of it for you.....Qurious said:
PM me for the addy
Midnightrider
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just scammin'- no slammin'Tigerlily said:
besides, this is the one who thinks sex is overrated, i'm guessing that it has a lot to do with her skills/enthusiasm
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I agree with Kain. 10 years! 
I sort of gave C_Jo an ultimatum. I didn't think of it that way, but he did. Anyway, we had been together two years when he said, "I don't know if I'll ever be ready to get married," so I said, "OK, then there's no reason for me to be here" -- because I can HEAR my ovaries are shriveling -- and started packing. Next thing I know, there's a gigantic diamond ring on my finger!
Ultimatums work, but only if he/she really loves you and is ready to make the commitment.
I sort of gave C_Jo an ultimatum. I didn't think of it that way, but he did. Anyway, we had been together two years when he said, "I don't know if I'll ever be ready to get married," so I said, "OK, then there's no reason for me to be here" -- because I can HEAR my ovaries are shriveling -- and started packing. Next thing I know, there's a gigantic diamond ring on my finger!
Ultimatums work, but only if he/she really loves you and is ready to make the commitment.
Larry and I had a similar conversation - not about getting married but about seeing each other exclusively.K_Jo said:
Him: I'm not sure if I want to get tied down to one person.
Me: Thanks for letting me know. I appreciate honesty.
acksbags:Him: Wait! Wait!!
But it has to be HONEST and not just some silly mind game. I was in loooove and didn't want to date anyone else. So I definitely wasn't interested in being part of a harem, gnashing my teeth while he was out with some other skeezer and waiting my turn. Can you imagine?
Why? I mean, if you're not going to follow through with your end of it, yeah - bad move. But what's wrong with saying, "Here's what I need out of a relationship. Can you provide it or not?"jazz lady said:
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I disagree, unltimatums are where you separate the shiat from shinola. You say your piece, make your stand and say what you are expecting they agree or not. It cuts to the chase without the goofy dancing and posturing. :shrug:jazz lady said:
It is the most direct form of communication, both parties know exactly what the score is and where it is going.
I don't consider that an ultimatum. That's a conversation.vraiblonde said:
An ultimatum is "You will marry me by blahblah date or...." "We need to live together by blahblah date or...."
The problem with an ultimatum is it makes the person defensive so that they'll do exactly the opposite of the ultimatum (even if its not what they want) just to show they are still in charge of their own lives.