What is wrong with me?

StanleyRugg · Nov 15, 2007

kwillia said:
I disagree. Sometimes a relationship just stops working. It's not like they had built a life together during those three years. They were just really good friends with benefits.

I know what ya mean. I had to let a girl go cause she had really hairy arms and it bothered me. Momma Rugg never liked her much and used to call her Bigfoot. She sure was hairy but she didn't have big feet at all.

kwillia · Nov 15, 2007

vraiblonde said:
You have to wonder about a guy who ditches his wife and newborn. Sounds like a real peach.

Ding.... you get points for your assumption that she doesn't have much by way of self-esteem... :yay:

wishes · Nov 15, 2007

wow, I thought about that, but I just didn't see it I guess. I really love him, I work with him I don't have a choice but to talk to him here and see him, it really sucks

Xaquin44 · Nov 15, 2007

wishes said:
wow, I thought about that, but I just didn't see it I guess. I really love him, I work with him I don't have a choice but to talk to him here and see him, it really sucks

get him fired so you don't have to bother with him.

alternatly, quit.

wishes · Nov 15, 2007

ya know, he bought me flowers, took me to dinner not just a normal dinner nice dinners, cooked for me, we went out a lot, played pool, went on trips, all kinds of things how would I know it was serious

kwillia · Nov 15, 2007

wishes said:
wow, I thought about that, but I just didn't see it I guess. I really love him, I work with him I don't have a choice but to talk to him here and see him, it really sucks

Well, IMO you should find some comfort in knowing your relationship never really got beyond really good friends with benefits. It could have been worse if you two had actually built a life together over those three years and then he walked out...:shrug:

aps45819 · Nov 15, 2007

wishes said:
wow, I thought about that, but I just didn't see it I guess. I really love him, I work with him I don't have a choice but to talk to him here and see him, it really sucks

... and that's why office romance is discouraged or forbidden at most companies.

Chasey_Lane · Nov 15, 2007

kwillia said:
I think it's different that you are talking a husband/wife. I husband can fit a piece on the side into his schedule, but I can't see a girlfriend of three years not figuring out he was married unless they really didn't have that close of a relationship afterall.

Yeah, I see what you are saying.

K_Jo · Nov 15, 2007

mainman said:
He was tired of stringing you along....

It was nice of you to make that last ditch effort with the hotel room and the hot tub and everything. :smile:

mizteresa1965 · Nov 15, 2007

juggy4805 said:
Exactly, he didn't want a realationship or love. He wanted company.

He wanted his cake and eat it too...............I guess being on travel for 3 years and only home 2 days out of the week can be stressful to marriage that supposedly didn't exist.

migtig · Nov 15, 2007

wishes said:
wow, I thought about that, but I just didn't see it I guess. I really love him, I work with him I don't have a choice but to talk to him here and see him, it really sucks

Look for a new job. Sounds like you really need a change of scenary.

Oh and get a new hairdo and your nails done - that helps.

kwillia · Nov 15, 2007

wishes said:
ya know, he bought me flowers, took me to dinner not just a normal dinner nice dinners, cooked for me, we went out a lot, played pool, went on trips, all kinds of things how would I know it was serious

Again... you two didn't take it beyond a close friendship (with sex). It obviously wasn't as serious as you are making it out to be... it just had potential, but never got off the ground.

migtig · Nov 15, 2007

wishes said:
ya know, he bought me flowers, took me to dinner not just a normal dinner nice dinners, cooked for me, we went out a lot, played pool, went on trips, all kinds of things how would I know it was serious

Did you hang out with each others friends? Meet each others families? Talk about the future? Did everyone you both knew, know you as a couple? Did you get invited to parties together? Or were you simply his friend?

Again, you were more involved emotionally than he was. Can't be helped. Now you need to move forward.

dems4me · Nov 15, 2007

kwillia said:
Again... you two didn't take it beyond a close friendship (with sex). It obviously wasn't as serious as you are making it out to be... it just had potential, but never got off the ground.

She romantasized this too much and read into things way too much. He caught on probably while they were in the hot tub and backed out. :shrug:

tommyjones · Nov 15, 2007

migtig said:
Did you hang out with each others friends? Meet each others families? Talk about the future? Did everyone you both knew, know you as a couple? Did you get invited to parties together? Or were you simply his friend?

Again, you were more involved emotionally than he was. Can't be helped. Now you need to move forward.

now please post a pic so that we may best determine which forumite is best suited to help you 'move on' :popcorn:

gumbo · Nov 15, 2007

wishes said:
I don't get. I have been married before and it didn't work. Not because I wasn't the good one because I for whatever reason got hooked up with abusers. Well finally got out of that! Thank god. Started seeing this wonderful man, the total oppisite of what I am use to who was wonderful to me, we never had one fight in 3 years. We work together, then out of the blue he tells me the other day its over because he can't give me what I want. I don't want anything more then what we have! I don't get it, and he does it at work, in 2 secs and thats it? Three days before this he wined and dined me at this excellent place and got us a room with a hot tub. What is wrong with me?

You don't get rid of the old car until you're driving the new one, do ya?

wishes · Nov 15, 2007

We went everywhere together, other friends, party's, family other then the kids know who we were everything was together, I was not a secret

tommyjones · Nov 15, 2007

gumbo said:
You don't get rid of the old car until you're driving the new one, do ya?

in some rare cases it is best to just take the tags off and leave that POS on the side of the road. walkin is better than pushin

Lugnut · Nov 15, 2007

mizteresa1965 said:
He wanted his cake and eat it too...............I guess being on travel for 3 years and only home 2 days out of the week can be stressful to marriage that supposedly didn't exist.

What the hell is the point of having cake if you CAN'T EAT IT?!

You diet folks just beat the fun out of EVERYTHING!!!

dems4me · Nov 15, 2007

migtig said:
Look for a new job. Sounds like you really need a change of scenary.

Oh and get a new hairdo and your nails done - that helps.

Catt told me a good saying - somethign about buttering bread and working at the same bakery or something or other :yay:

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